POSSIBLERS Motivation

“Work is a blessing, it is never too much.”  What makes us smart, valuable and respected? If you think it is our color, complexion or features I am afraid it is true only if you are interested in Bollywood (not even Hollywood). As per my understanding it is our WORK which gets us all the appreciation, money, security, respect and recognition. Mr. Shahrukh Khan is modelling in an advertisement where he is promoting “Fair and Handsome” cream for men. As per my understanding men only need shaving cream. Mr. Barack Obama does not need fair and handsome, he is already the most handsome and powerful person on this planet without being fair in color. (If you don’t like American example, consider Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandela). People like or dislike us because of our work and behavior. In some cases, if you are working fine then some of your behavioral deficiencies are also overlooked. We witness all the time in families that an earning member irrespective of his/her seniority g...

TIME CERTAINLY ANSWERS “WHY”  One life, infinite responsibilities, Often in our lives we struggle with so many questions like- why this has happened to me, why I have not got this job , why I did not get the promotion, why he/she did has not supported me, how can she/ he betrayed on me. Unfair people and situations revolve around us and we become panic, uncomfortable and curse our life of what life has planned for us. We feel like, nothing is going good, the way we thought and it can’t be as well. We become so negative that things which could be enjoyed and moments that can be cherished, we miss on them just because of the bitter flavor we have tasted. These unfavorable situations and unfair people gives pain and horrible experience at the time of occurrence but in reflection if we realize that without overcoming those obstacles we would have never realized our potential, strength and will power . They help us to mirror ourselves better and closer to oneself. Nothing happ...

CONDITIONS APPLY We all are so used to these words ‘terms and conditions apply’ that nowadays we really just ignore the important part of reading it and just accepting that obviously there will be some terms and conditions. But here I am talking about the conditions we have started putting on relationships. Just like we have accepted the fact that there will be conditions on anything we buy from market, we also have started accepting that any kind of conditions also apply on relationships. And forget uncle, aunts and cousins but even parent child relationship also comes with ‘terms and conditions apply’; be it child’s studies, job, marriage or parents’ health and so on. Though obviously not each and everybody falls in this ‘The Conditions Apply Category’ but yes, most of us do. It seems like we have become so used to ‘It’s a give and take policy’ that now we hardly care about the strings attached with people around us; all we care about the work done, the thing bought. ...

CHOICES We make choices each single day and making a ‘choice’, a RIGHT CHOICE is one of the serious business for every Individual whether it is for own self or helping our loved ones to make a CHOICE. This concern sometime creates one of the biggest turmoil or friction between their relationships whether it is between Husband and Wife, Parent and Child or any other. Everybody wants to help their loved ones to make correct choices so that they won’t repeat the same mistakes as they did in their lives. Basically in trying to help their loved ones, they actually steal their ability to make the choices for themselves. They try to control their actions and wants them to act as they want it which will help them to avoid facing those problems. Then the problem arises of “Imposition” in their relationship and further they wonder why their loved ones start resisting and felt uncomfortable with their control. This scene is very much evident in a parent - child relationship that they want...

Don’t Miss ‘I’ in ‘US’ Never stop doing little things for others because sometimes these little things occupy the biggest part in their hearts, but what if the same is not reciprocated you. What others do is not my business, but what people do to me, may be again not my business but yes it does effects. We often say that “I just do my part and don’t expect anything from others”, I just don’t expect that they should to do the same to me but when certain gesture or action did not come back the way we did, it hurts and we feel bad.  We sometimes also feel like I am being taken as granted. If we can be little honest to ourselves, somewhere yes we have little expectations but we resist accepting the same. When things in life go smooth and in air, we do a lot for others, and keep saying that “Lets enjoy the present, who knows and can predict future??” Slowly and gradually we get “used to” to it and want to feel the same throughout the life. Very silently our life crosses thr...

Saying ‘ NO’ is better than ‘No Response’ O crap! It’s been long I am approaching him/her, but getting no answer! I tried to call him many a times but he/she is not answering the call! I asked him many a times but he/she is not replying! Aren’t the above mentioned are our daily happenings which trigger us? Each one of us is either waiting for an answer by someone or someone is waiting for our answer. It happens both at professional and personal front. According to me, world is composed of two kind of people- first, “who have something to say and can’t” and secondly those “who have something to say but don’t”. We feel so irritated and wonder that what is taking a lot of time for the person to answer or what is taking a person to opt for no reply at all. For people who ‘can’t say’ they need to learn the art of how to say and for those who ‘don’t say’ at all needs to be responsive in nature.  The reason why people resist saying ‘no’ is that they have little fear...

Learn to LET GO We all want to control, especially our lives because we think we are the owner of it, the sole proprietor, but when things become out of our control, we start feeling helpless or powerless and start thinking about all the negative things that could happen. We start chasing or dwelling on what is out of our control which not only prevent us from experiencing the beauty of the moment but also having a peaceful mind. We even try to do all the possible things to make that happen the way we want it, no matter how bad the repercussion will be. To let go of emotional burden, we need to ask ourselves whether in that particular situation I can’t change or I won’t change. Because there are certain things which are not in our control, as we don’t know what will happen in the next minute. However, our benefit lies in the acceptance of reality and let things go which are not in our control and focus more on the things which we can do or on which we have a control i.e. ...

“Oh Yes! I know how to do this”, “Oh Yes! I have a plan” many of use this statements often, because it’s all about how you plan your life and then going according to that plan. Life tastes different flavors at different phase of life a like being a student in school, in college, as an employee in organization, as a spouse and even as a parent. Hence, different plan at different stages where some goes well and some don’t. However, there are many who just hit the bull’s eye in their plan. It’s amazing and feels like they were all sorted since their birth. They just follow the plan and make it big. And yes there are some people for whom this plan doesn’t work. They lose their way and enter somewhere else just for the sake of going somewhere and then again get lost. Then somehow they get up again, figure out everything, and start from scratch with a different plan. But in the meanwhile they do not realize the biggest obstacle in their journey which is their age. This age becomes s...

Step Out From Your Comfort Zone We all want to achieve the great success in our lives but, are we really stretching ourselves to do something worthy? Most of the time we avoid things and activities which makes us feel uncomfortable, even if we know that the result of it is the best for us. It is very unfortunate that we avoid facing the challenges and wants to run from it into the other direction i.e. our comfort zone where we feel safe and finds no risk. We hide ourselves from the life's struggles, challenges and opportunities and this is the biggest reason which limits our success. To make our life worthy, we need to get comfortable with uncomfortable because if we can be comfortable with uncomfortable then we'll be prepared to handle any situation whatever comes in our way and one of the best way to make our life worthy is to try something new. But for some people new is unfamiliar and unfamiliar is uncomfortable. So, willingly they trap themselves in a monotonous ro...

There are times in our lives when we do not feel like getting up and doing what we are meant for. Sometimes we do not get up because we are just not aware about what we are meant for or we get so tired searching for that reason to get up. Well, it is alright not to clear out things. It is alright to be messy for some years and be confused because after all this confusion, when we really find out what we are meant for, that awareness it self gives so much satisfaction which nothing else can give.  Everybody goes through this phase in life; so much pressure from parents, we see our friends doing so much better than us and some of our friends have so clear plans in life and the fact that they actually pursue those plans with successful results make many of us think, “What the hell is wrong with me?” But then that is the time to sit and think that everybody is not the same. So what if some of us are still a mess or if some of us are in some place where we know we don’...

Through the course of our lives, we spend most of our time doing particular tasks that may either help us to earn our livelihood or build the staircases for our bright future. We hardly have time for our own leisure. We lead a very hectic and stressful life with pride. Even if we manage to find some free time, we spend that time also in worrying er, we need to engage ourselves in such a way that not only help us in our overall development but also strengthen our personality which gives more meaning to our lives. About the past, present and future instead of utilizing it in a constructive manner. However there was a time when people used to pursue their hobbies like stamp collecting or writing poetry which seems to be lost somewhere in the past. But to have a hobby is very important for leading a balanced life because your hobbies will make you feel fresh and energetic even after a hectic day and gives you a reason to smile which can change your entire world that you wi...

As an observer to other people’s lives we think that we will never experience what they’re living and that will never happen to me. But life is unpredictable and that’s the only truth of life. Nothing is permanent, everything changes; and of course, a lot of things can happen that will transform who you are and have an impact on your life. Tha t is where we need to cultivate the ability to accept whatever comes and embrace it. We need to develop the habit of looking at whatever happens through a positive mindset, instead of a negative one. Of course, life will bring many challenges such as losing a wonderful job opportunity, family loss, a missed opportunity, or a sudden change in your plans, not getting promotion at workplace etc. I agree that it’s not easy to embrace them when we’re suffering and wishing those things would have never happened. But if we start cultivating acceptance in our lives right now, we’ll likely cope with future crises in a different way and...